How do I know if I'm spoiling my child?

Hi, mommas! My little one is an angel and I’m lucky to be able to give him most all of the things he asks for, which is a privilege I didn’t have as a kid. I’m wondering though, at what point does it become too much? When does it become spoiling him? I want him to stay as sweet as he is for a long time.

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Diana posted September 17, 2019

That’s something I’ve struggled with a lot too! I feel really proud of the kind of person I am, but I didn’t have the most supportive or giving parents, so it makes me worry that being supportive and giving my daughter what she wants will mean she won’t grow up to be as grateful as she would be otherwise. When I think about how difficult my childhood was though, it makes me not want to be the same with her as my parents were with me. 0 Likes

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Chrissy posted September 17, 2019

Definitely something I think a lot of us think about! I would say that you shouldn’t worry about it too much. The most important thing is to make sure your child is a good person. If they’re thankful, kind, and compassionate, then giving them the best that you can will only do wonders! 0 Likes

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Simone posted September 25, 2019

If you think about it it's really hard to spoil a baby, since they only know how to cry when they need something. As your child gets older though there are things to keep in mind to help see if you are over indulging them too much. Your child does depend on you as a parent but as they grow older, they need to learn how to be independent and secure on their own. So for example, if they are older than a toddler and still throw tantrums to express how they feel, or will never let you leave them with a family member or baby sitter, or they constantly don't want to eat the food you make, then there might be somethings to consider here. What is age appropriate behavior and what boundaries need to be set to help your child's development. A child out of control is crying for help. Stay calm, reward good behavior, talk to them openly about their behavior, and be consistent. Good luck! 0 Likes

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Kori posted September 29, 2019

I had a really good childhood that was filled with love and families, resulting in memories that will last a lifetime. We have the opportunity to shape our child's world through the relationship we have with them, the things we do with them and the things we do for them. I'd say spoil children in any and every capacity you can, while teaching them to be appreciative, responsible and sharing. There is a way to create a healthy balance while spoiling your child where they are spoiled sweet and compassionate for others that may be less fortunate. 0 Likes