Victor S.
I'm a mother and I love kids. I get them and I have a way with them even when I just meet them they tend to gravitate to me and they seem to open up to me with no problems. I raised my younger brother and helped with my 3 nieces from one brother and raised another of my nieces from when she was 3 months till her mom decided it was time for her to come take over 3 years after the weekend ahe had said i would watch her for and never even calling to see if she was ok but she let me be side line nanny so it workedmout and i help andnhave heloednmy friends with their kids and i have 6 step children that had absent moms that i helped raise and 3 of them have families og their own and ask me for adbice when they feel like they need some so i guess that means i did good. I just know that I love kids and they love me and I believe u can get thru to kids with talking faster and better than with yelling spanking or being quick to punish them or giving them what they feel they want or need if u yell at a kid or quick to punish them u lose their respect and their attention but if u try to talk with them and level with them I feel it works 80 percent of the time than punishment or threats or spanking or yelling. Sometime punishment or even spankings are necessary but mostly if talk to a kid u will see they will do as u are trying to guide them to ans even listen to u more than if ur quick to yel judge or punish them and it saves u and them a whole lot of yelling and unecceasary drama. Not every child is the same and not the same kind of approach works but if u take the time to listen or analyze their behavior u can figure out ur best approach and go from there u just have to remember they are mini us and they don't know how to properly communicate their feelings and emotions they only act out what they are taught. So if u don't want a bratty crybaby kid don't act like one and don't teach them to be one show them discipline thru love and nurturing and they will be nurturing and disciplined and respectful and make u proud but if u show them disrespectful behaviors and be unruly and unhappy but if u show them how to proud respectful and well mannered by example then they will follow kids mimic us so what we do they do and so if they see disrespectful and ill mannered people around them they will be the same way. Lead by example cuz u can say do as I say not as I do all u want they are going to always do as we do and never as we say we gotta practice what we preach in order for our children to follow. We are their leaders from birth and should behave a such we are human and will make mistakes and so will they but we don't have to allow our kids to see oh mommy and or daddy made a mistake and they didn't correct themselves or even learn from them cuz the keep making it and allow it to keep them down them they will follow that lead but if show them hey I fell but I'm getting up dusting myself off and seeing where I made my mistake and fix it and or avoid making it again then they will also do that. Raising kids is just remembering we all were kids once and we all thought we knew it all and our parents were our biggest role model and who we want to be when we grew up well our kids feel that way to why not give them a better one than we had so they can grow up and be better than we were and so forth. I guess like I tell all kids I've helped raise I'm not mom and not trying to take their place but I am ur friend am here to help u where she is not able so that she can help u when she is home we are a team and team work makes the dream work but if we do t work as a team then guess what the dream isn't going to either so u want to team up with me and make mommy and daddy proud so they can join our team and we can win the game. Usually works with most kids.
I have the best degree ever it's hands on experience I have 4 children of my own and helped raise my 3 nieces and I have 6 step kids I helped raise as well and I still have 2 younger kids I am raising in my own. I feel there is no better degree then the one u get from actually being a parent because raising kids isn't taught in books or school it's learned from hands on experience they certainly don't come with instructions but they teach u a lot about yourself and life and will surprise you every turn nothing can prepareu to raise children but doing it and it's the most rewarding job I've ever had children are the best and all u need is to be able to get on their level to do it properly and they will surprise u always and they will) test I like no other but there's nothing more rewarding than when a child u took care of and took time to nurture come back years later hug u and say thank you there is no better feeling in my book at least other than when ur own babies are born and do the same. Makes u feel like u did something to better the world no matter how small of a thing it was. Love kids they are better to me than a room full of adults I'll take a house full of kids than a room with adults filling it.