Toddler in Daycare

Hello everyone I need some opinions/advice from any of you who have been through this:
We put our 19month old in a preschool/daycare 3 weeks ago (part time 3 days a week 9-4pm). Before daycare he had only stayed with my mom during the week while my husband and I work. He is super attached to my parents and mom and dad. He usually had separation issues with anyone other than us (even family). He has never been a great sleeper, but always slept in his own room with no problems.

After placing him in this daycare where there are about 8 other toddlers - he has changed and has gotten even worse seperation anxiety. I mean we cannot go anywhere without him thinking he is going to daycare and he gets upset and starts crying. He gets highly upset when I leave for work in the mornings and that has never been an issue. He is in a horrible mood after he comes home from daycare. Super clingy at home and wakes up screaming begging not to be alone. He absolutely loved baths and now he hates them.

I get that it takes time to adjust especially for part time kids, but we decided to pull him out of this daycare. Was it too soon or do those things sound like red flags? Because they do to me!

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Jayme posted February 10, 2023

sounds like parenting issues , parents need to learn to set boundaries 0 Likes

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Andreah posted February 10, 2023

Well thank you that was extremely helpful….
If you have nothing nice to say just don’t say it! 0 Likes

Lacramioara posted February 10, 2023

I think 🤔 he needs more time !! He was very close with family!!🤗 0 Likes

Clara posted February 10, 2023

Sounds like red flags to me.
I am a childcare provider who is taking different classes pertaining to different emotions of children
And looking for signs of abuse
Not saying your child was abused
However, It’s very hard to know if abuse existed or neglect due to your child age.
That makes them more vulnerable to neglect/ abuse
In closing I believe you did great with pulling your child out of that setting
So you can investigate and find out your child needs wether your child has been neglected or just having a difficult time fitting into the new.
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Regina posted February 11, 2023

You did the right things, the signs are very clear. 0 Likes

Michelle posted February 12, 2023

I agree with Clara maybe not physical abuse but neglect not that this abuse happened but there are things that don't make sense. Just need to check it out more. Our children are parents most precious things in life. we need to protect them. 0 Likes

Rasika posted February 12, 2023

Hi Andrea,
Your little one is so attached to you and your family members and 19 months old babies have a very good understanding. Also baby was going to daycare part time. It is very normal for that age to have separation anxiety and sometimes it takes little time for them to get use to the new environment. Each baby is unique and different how long it takes to get adjusted to the new environment. I had been a teacher and a director for last 23 years and now I have my own in home daycare as well. All the signs that you explain can be noticed. Because he knows that his mom and dad will leave and go for sometimes and he wants both of you. You should have given little bit time for him to get used to the daycare. But now you have taken him out so try to find another daycare and enroll and try again. I wish you all the best! 0 Likes